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and effeminate, and fanciful, but cautious, and to aid him in the regulation of his mode of living, as to sleep, and diet, and exercise. You need not be afraid of proper application and exertion. These, instead of injuring the health, conduce to it. They give circulation to the fluids, and prevent the evils of stagnation: they hinder the rust of the mind, and keep the powers polished, and easy of motion. But there may be an overdoing. The machine may be over-worked. You will be, perhaps, by your constant and intimate observation, the best judge of the degree of labour to which he is equal. You will not be ignorant of his impaired digestion, his perturbed rest, his trembling nerves, his depressed spirits, his exhausted frame, and the low ebb of vigour when the Sabbath is gone, and the Monday sees him not living, but existing only. And you must not neglect to sound the timely alarm. And if zeal, without knowledge or feeling, still urges the same unremitting efforts; and tells him he cannot die in a better cause: if his spiritual task-masters require the same tale of bricks: if the three services of the day must still be exact

ed from wasting strength yet growing anxiety

his blood will be upon the heads of his cruel murderers but you have delivered your soul.

An attention to his peace of mind. We have met with some members of churches, who kindly think that affliction and depression are best for a minister. We are almost ashamed to use a coarse and unfeeling proverb among them, quite worthy, however, of the employers, and since we are not in the pulpit, let it come out: That the preacher never preaches so well as when the cow has trod upon his foot.' Yet it never seems to strike these cold, calculating reasoners, that they, as hearers, may be benefited themselves by a similar experience! But if domestic distress be desirable for the improvement of the preacher, so may any other kind of rueful probation: and if the physcian, in order to perfect him in his art, is to go through all the complaints for which he prescribes, he will have neither time nor ability to practise. To dismiss this delicate figure, I hope my brother's 'fair heifer' will not achieve, this species of service for him. I am sure she will not. I am sure she will encourage him.

And he will require every favourable excitement. His work is arduous. He has trials in common with men; and he has trials in common with his fellow Christians: but he has also various trials peculiar to himself; and you will best know this. You, indeed even you, will not know all his heart's bitterness: but you will hear enough, see enough, to convince you that he, whose office it is to comfort others, needs no little consolation himself. And your smiles can rainbow the cloud of grief. Your soft hand can smooth the wrinkles of his oppressed brow. Your gentle words, like the fanning of an angel's wing, can cool the heatful anguish of the mind. Your kind management (a woman is never at a loss where comfort is called for) can withdraw a distracting train of thought, and substitute cheerful imagery. You can remind him of instances of usefulness, when he is complaining, 'I have laboured in vain, and spent my strength for nought.' In his doubts and fears, with regard to his own spiritual condition, and to such he is liable, you can be the wife of Manoah, who said, 'If the Lord were pleased to kill us, he would not

have received an offering at our hand; nor have shown us such things as these.' If among his people he meets with mortifying defections in such as should prove a comfort to him, he will find one tried and faithful bosom in which he can safely repose. If he has storms abroad, peace will be always awaiting him at home: and he will always enjoy a resource in that unfailing good temper

Whose unclouded ray

Can make to-morrow cheerful as to-day.'

You will, indeed, be every way anxious to render his own abode, not only the tabernacle of the righteous, but the dwelling-place of tenderness and comfort. In this, his safety as well as his satisfaction will be much concerned. We have known not only men, but ministers, who have fallen by temptation: and though we by no means wish to justify or extenuate their conduct, it is no secret, that in some instances, at least, there has been little domestic happiness and attraction. What attraction can there be in sullenness? or in peevishness? or in clamour? 'Better is a dry morsel and quietness therewith, than a house full of sacri

fices with strife.' 'It is better to dwell in a corner of the house-top, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.' 'A continual dropping in a rainy day, and a contentious woman, are alike. Whoso hideth her, hideth the wind, and the ointment of his right hand that bewrayeth itself.' What attraction can there be in negligence, disorder, slatternliness? A disregard of propriety, and especially neatness of apparel, is in a female a fault that nothing can expiate. Even religion will not excuse it. There is a greater connexion between mental and outward purity than some are aware of. A female may be always judged of by her dress. The founders of Methodism were accustomed to say, that cleanliness was next to godliness. I have known a few exceptions to this, in men. I never knew one in a woman.

Rely not too much on the rights of relationship, however intimate the connexion may be, and however endeared it ought to be. In preserving and keeping alive attachment, you must not absolutely depend upon the impressions that awakened it. A woman is not to presume on the certainty of homage, regardless

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